Eye Gazing
Sit across from each other in a comfortable position.
You want to be about six inches to a 12 apart.
For absolute beginners, 2 minutes is a good time to do the eye gazing.
For more experienced partners, or couples who are ready to go deeper, you can do this for 5
minutes.
Open your eyes and simply look into each other’s eyes. There is no wrong way to do this
exercise. You don’t have to feel anything, or say anything or do anything. Just gaze into your partner’s
eyes, and breathe into your lower belly.
Notice what you feel. Whatever is coming up, let yourself feel and think it. It’s all okay. Keep
gazing into your partner’s eyes.
If you have never done this before, you might want to laugh; it might feel uncomfortable, but
let that rise up. Let yourself laugh if you need to and then return back to the gazing. Return
to the connection and the feeling with your partner.
Remember to breathe!
After it’s done you can either move on to another exercise or thank each other and kiss or
cuddle or whatever feels right for you.
The Intimacy Activator
For this practice, you can be sitting across from each other,
or you can lay in each other’s arms.
Step 1
Start with eye gazing. Stare into each other’s eyes.
Step 2
Add a very conscious belly breath. Inhale and exhale into your belly and create a connected
breath, so there’s no pause between the inhale and the exhale.
Keep breathing deep and full into your belly while looking into each other’s eyes.
This will likely feel quite intense. Whatever arises, whatever you feel, keep breathing. It’s all
okay. Keep gazing into your partner’s eyes. You are safe, you are held, you are loved.
Step 3
Now begin breathing as though you could breathe directly into your genitals. Keep gazing
into your partner’s eyes and inhale directly into your penis and your testicles, or your pussy.
Have a deep full inhale.
No matter what arises, what you think, feel, experience: keep breathing, keep connecting to
your partner through your eyes.
Step 4
Breathe into the very center of your chest, into your spiritual heart. Your eyes are open and
your breath is connected. Stay with it. Whatever you feel, whatever you experience,
whatever you think– just allow it. Keep gazing into your partner’s eyes.
Step 5
Let go of the breath but still stare into each other’s eyes. Feel your third eye,
the point of power a little above your eyebrows at the center of your forehead.
Feel a connection there between you and your partner, gazing into each other’s eyes.
Step 6
Now feel the connection between your genitals, your lower belly, your heart and your third
eye. Breathe and feel this connection.
Step 7
Finish this exercise with whatever feels best: kissing and cuddling, making love,
or anything that feels natural for you.
